Finding What You Love

The paradox of self-discovery is that the more we understand ourselves, the more we understand and accept others. The more we know, the less we fear. A Course in Miracles teaches that there are only two main emotions: love and fear.

The Changemaker Test, designed to provide personality indicators–called labels–so anyone has some tools about themselves that they can study to see why they make the decisions and choices they make.  Then from this foundation of self-discovery, he/she can continue exploring and recreating themselves through her/his lifetime.

The Changemaker Test Categories are:
(1) NLP–Neurolinquistic Programming
(2) Birth Order
(3) Family Roles
(4) Our Emotional Energies
(5) MBTI– Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

The Changemaker Test is at http://answersbyemail.com.

During the energy you spend in re-inventing yourself, you will learn new career choices for your personality labels. The labels can be quite effective at weeding out what you love to do and what you’ve taught yourself to do against your basic nature. Find what you love to do and life will be a continual joyful experience.

Some longer posts you may enjoy reading are:

(1) Reinventing Yourself at Good Life Coaching has some good tips: take it at your own pace, look at where you want to go, maybe take an interim step, deal with the flak and remember that reinventing yourself means creating a new identity.

(2) Reinventing Yourself from Psychology Today suggests that reinventing ourselves means letting go of the memory of who we think we are.

(3)  Reinventing Yourself from Mike Bellah is about the fundamental quest at midlife. He quotes Ross Goldstein: “The fundamental quest at midlife is to figure out who we are and who we want to be as we get ready to embark on the second half of life,”

Connect Your Mind and Body

Emotional health is directly connected to our physical health. Choosing healthy ways (exercise, meditation, centering, and deep breathing) to deal with stress go far toward our overall health. The mind-body connection is the way your body responds to how you think, feel and act.

Some of the physical signs that your body and mind may be out of connection are chest pain, headaches, back pain, extreme tiredness, high blood pressure, upset stomach, weight loss or gain, insomnia, etc. Many of these ailments may be as well treated by learning how to improve your emotions. Learn how to sort out the following emotions: anxiety, stress and sadness.

Too many of us have learned as children to stuff our feelings. The only emotional growth comes after we accept our feelings. Feelings aren’t good or bad or wrong or right. They are simply how we feel. Some people are helped by writing in a journal a short description of how they feel. After you accept your feelings, you can study healthy ways to deal with them.

Unfortunately, many people now believe that they have to continually “vent” all their feelings. In my opinion, vending feelings about the same situation does little good. If, once your feelings are known about a situation to all involved in the situation and everything stays the same, then learn new coping skills such as reframing to change the way you feel.

Remember, you can only change yourself-not others. If you still feel unable or unwilling to change-find out what your unhappiness is giving you. Holding on to old hurts only hurts us.